Have you ever run across another mom who wants to tell you all about all their children can do? Or even worse, tells you all that your children should be doing? Have you walked away from a conversation like that feeling like a failure?
The other day, a friend of mine called. She was so discouraged after a conversation like that. She tried to be real with another homeschool mom. She told this other mom how their English curriculum was going. This other mom, she made my friend feel like a failure. Instead of encouraging her, this mom took that moment to point out how much more her child knew and how farther along she was.
Was my friend failing? Absolutely not.
In fact, I’m pretty sure her child is farther along in writing than we are.
(If you are a homeschooler, you probably know there are different types of education. One curriculum might teach writing paragraphs in kindergarten; another wait until children are much older. Some programs advocate very formal curriculum even for pre-school. Others are more un-schoolers. We don’t all have to school our children the same way.)
No failing involved. Just some different educational methodology.
Keep in mind that when you hear that some child is better than your child at writing your child is probably better at science or math or art or music or loving their siblings or football or something else that your family has focused on. Share in your child’s successes. Listen to other people’s successes. But, don’t expect all of the successes to be the same.
Why do we tear each other down instead of being encouraging?
What can you do today to encourage another mom? I just love the phrase in I Thessalonians 5:14 – “encourage the fainthearted”. If you know someone who just might be fainthearted, send them a text, email, an actual snail-mail card, or even call them. Let’s build one another up today. You can help another mom feel triumphant (or least not failing) today.